A child learns from what they see and hear in their surroundings. Arguing and yelling in front of our kid is the worst experience we can give to our kid as parents. It may have a lasting impact on little minds and may hamper their emotional growth. These kinds of experiences affect the child's sleep, concentration on school and increases their fear and anxiety.
As parents, it’s our prime responsibility to provide a soothing and loving atmosphere which is required for their holistic growth. A couple who respects each other and care for each other is a perfect example a child can look up to. It improves their social behavior and makes them sensitive to other people's needs.
Below are some steps which we as parents can implement in our lives to set an example in front of our kids:
1) Don’t Yell: First thing to take care is not to increase our volume when having a disagreement with our spouse. It’s absolutely okay to not to agree together on lot of things but you don’t have to prove your opinion by yelling and shouting. Just by stating your point of view in calm tone of voice reflects what you actually mean and the other person listens to you.
2) Avoid Shameful Comments: Always mind your language if kids are around and you are having a conflict with your husband. Always remember that kids catch new vocabulary very quickly and your kids calling you by same names will be the last thing you want with your kids.
3) Respect each other's Opinion: Always acknowledge your partner's point of view and then tell them what you think about that particular topic. This way you will be teaching them the art of listening and how to respect every person's opinion.
4) Don’t be Afraid of Apologizing: This is the best example you can set up in front of kids. Show them that it’s not bad to acknowledge if you are wrong and apologize. This way you will be teaching them to come up to you in case they have done something wrong and they will not be afraid to tell you about it.
5) Don’t continue to fight: In case you don’t come to the conclusion and you still disagree on a point, then postpone the discussion (read fight) at a later convenient time when your kid is not around.
In the end, make sure you resolve the conflict in an amicable way in front of your kid. It will create the positive atmosphere around your kid and he will learn to not leave the ends loose and how to come to a conclusion. It’s good for kids to see that their parents don’t go to sleep without solving a problem between them and it actually prepares kids to handle conflicts later in their lives.